Have you felt lost or have you lost that sense of wonder in life? Is you life at the moment all serious and there is no fun at work or at home?
What you are experiencing is the loss of your childhood wonderment. The loss of curiosity in everything you see and do. You think all that is around you is mundane and monotonous. What you need to do is to rekindle that childhood wonderment inside of you.
How would you do this? It’s simple look at someone you know really look into their eyes and then when they least expect it make a face at them see what their reaction is. You will find that whatever their reaction is, whether good or bad, your heart will race and feel alive you will find their reactions to you to be curious. Then you will question yourself why did they react the way they did. Then begins the journey of finding out.
As you find out more and more you will notice that you have discovered something new about the person whom you made the face to. And in turn they will have found out something new about you. This in turn will make you more curious about what you don’t know about each other. By conversing with them you will enjoy the rekindled wonderment for life.
When you have stopped learning about yourself you stop living and just exist. But the more you learn about yourself the more you will keep that wonderment alive inside and life will be more exciting to live and to interact with those around you.
So until next time. Stay Safe. Stay Cool. And rekindle that wonderment from your childhood.
Please tell me your reaction to the face below in the comments:
You find yourself in a friendship with someone. You give it your all to make this relationship great. You try and keep the communication going try to be there for them when they need you and then help them out
You find out they are not putting in the effort you are. They do not communicate with you. They just call you when you are needed. That is the only time they communicate with you if at all. You help them out because you are a friend. Once they have been helped and no longer need it, they toss you by the wayside. They ignore you even when they see you. No greetings no nothing. They only talk when they cannot avoid you at all.
This is the type of person you should let go of. But when you let them go and they notice it they try to get back into your good books because they want you to be there at their beck and call. They were never in it for the friendship. They were in it to use you and that is it.
But you do like the person enough to allow them back in because you believe in giving people second chances then once they are back they again become the person they were before you let them go. So you let them go again. And again they try to get back into you good books. Letting them go becomes a chore and it keeps hurting. So once you have let them go do not let them back in. Do not give them another chance for them to use you.
Being used is demeaning for you are never appreciated for what you do. Life is too short for wasting your time with these types. Let them go and be glad to see the back of them. If they try to come back just keep them at a distance.
Until next time Stay Safe. Stay Cool. And let your toxic friends go and never look back at them again.
The friends we make will shape who we become in the future. They are the ones who help us push the limits of who we can become. They are the ones who will make us into superheroes for others, while they are superheroes to us. They never need attention or a reason for being there. They are always just there. So choose the friends that push you to do better not people to tell you what you are doing wrong all the time.
For some years now a friend of mine kept asking me to do things that were impossible for me to do. They would not listen and would not communicate with me properly. It all came to a head last month when we had a huge argument. Finally, they got what I needed and now for the past month, the communication between us has been great. No problems so far. They tell me what they need I give them what think will help out and we hatch out a plan that works well.
It was not that I pushed them to communicate more it was also them pushing me to do better with my communication as well. By pushing each other we are now a better team working together for a common goal.
They are the friends you need. The ones that will push you to the limits and then make Sur you blow past those limits and become a super friend. You must also push them to become more than who they could be. You must be their super friend as well. Or they will abandon you.
So until next time, Stay Safe. Stay cool and be a super friend to find a super friend.
Time heals all wounds. Keep those you love in your memories. Lest we forget. These great sayings all hide one ugly truth. They hide the cruelest things in life.
Time does not heal wounds, people who believe that know nothing of how time is cruel by reminding us here and there of what went down. The only way to heal is to let go. The only way to let go is to let people in to help. Healing emotional wounds takes time and effort. Time only moves forward it does not care who you are what you have been through. It just is.
It took me a long time to find that out. And I found it the hard way. Falling to the bottom of an abyss so dark that even light could never cut through. Is the abyss gone? No it will never go away. It is a constant reminder of where I have been. Yet the darkness has no sway over me anymore. The people around me has seen to that. My friends. My family. They are the ones who helped me. Your friends and family are the ones who will help you. But you have to be the one to find help. You cannot do it on your own. However you alone must seek the help out.
The other cruel thing that those sayings hide are memories. Always keep your loved ones in your hearts. I will never forget. These are things we say to keep us happy before we go to sleep at night. Yet the truth is memories fade over time. Try as hard as you like but you will lose memories over the course of your life time. That is another reason why time does not heal. It is a cruel reminder that all things must pass.
In my darkest moments, I also realised that the memories of those I have lost have degraded. I even sometimes cannot recall their faces. They are lost to the winds of time. All I have left are the emotions that I felt when I was with them. Emotions are the bonds between each other. The only way to make connects with each other is to communicate. Always stay in touch, never let go because in the end all you will have left are those connections. What you did together, what they said to you, what you said to them, all will pass and be forgotten. Yet those emotions that you build between you they will last a life time.
Stay in touch with those whom you love. Do not let time get the better of you. Most of all do not forget to stay connected. Let your emotions be the fibres that connect your souls together.
Until next time, Stay Safe. Stay Cool. And never allow time to pass without connecting with those you love the most.
There are times in this world that you see is only pictures on TV, but it affects no one. Yet there are people behind those images of lives being lost, being ruined, or being lifted up. To us, they are just images.
The news cycle has destroyed the story, the narrative. The images that once shocked a nation into protests against war have now just left people numb, no one cares enough anymore.
The other day I was speaking with my daughter about an assignment she is doing for her media class about Marshall McLuhan. She remarked to me that while watching a lecture he was doing the people in the audience were asking really intelligent questions. The people of the 1970s appeared to be smarter than those of today. I told her that people of today are more interested in financial gains than they are in intellectual gains, plus their attention span has been shortened so much that they cannot study properly.
With the advent of the internet. The level of intelligence has gone down. It’s not because there are fewer smart people in the world, it’s that there are more dumb people taking to the internet and getting popular for no other reason than being entertaining. But that is the dangerous game the internet is playing right now. The more these people spew their lies the more it becomes the mainstream. As the old saying goes “tell a lie enough times and it becomes the truth.” They spew it so that it makes it believable and that is what makes them dangerous.
TV has no way of competing against that. No way to counteract information at your fingertips. The smartphone energised the internet to be millions of times more powerful than the computer could ever do. That is why the world at this point is so desensitised to the suffering of anyone.
The same goes for our schools. They have no way to compete with the energised internet. Why go to school when you can learn it at any time anywhere in the world. But without the school system the pushing you to achieve certain goals in a certain time frame is gone. There is no motivation to learn other than financial reasons. We are motivated to make money and that is all.
And that is why the present sees many more people with less intelligence out there than there used to be fifty years ago. People are forgetting to actually learn.
I went to university because I wanted to learn something. It was a fascinating place to go to. See the history and cultures at play. See firsthand how politics plays out. The university was a microcosm of the real world. You get to interact with the real world but not affect it. You can experiment and see the consequences. Hone your skills before really going out into the world. Yet now it’s the Steve Jobs or Mark Zuckerberg style of doing it. Quit university and make it big. Mind you I am not saying they are bad for what they did. They did it because it was the best way for them. But in doing so they popularised the notion that going to university and getting a degree was not rewarding. This is not their fault, it is just the fact that they became successful that made their way of doing things popular.
There are a lot of people out there who think they can make it. But they forget one thing. Making it without education is impossible. Steve Jobs learnt many things before dropping out. Mark Zuckerberg learnt a great deal before dropping out. They had the motivation to learn. People today only want the quick fix, they want to be Steve Jobs or Mark Zuckerberg without the education without the learning. They think the internet is all they need. Learning must be a continuous journey. You cannot do some here and then some there and call it learning. Few people can but not many.
We must make a stand here. Humanity has lost its way, it is driven by a force of distrust. Forcing people to distrust everything. When people talk about others in a bad way that is a personal attack on them not on their actions then you know they are spewing crap, because that is the only thing they can attack because they know they cannot win on factual arguments. Do not attack people personally, if you don’t agree with them. Take issue with what and how they do things, let them explain what they are doing if they are wrong it will come out. If they are right then they will convince you of it.
Do things because it is right. because it is good. Do it through kindness. The kinder you are to the people around you the more people will be kinder to each other. Kindness is infectious. Please be kind. Or humanity will die here. This is our last stand.
Until next time. Stay Safe, Stay Cool, and above all else be kind to thy neighbours.