Living life is not what you do but how you react to what life gives you. If you think life is giving you a hard time, then you are not going to have a great time. Every time life knocks you down you think to yourself this is unfair why is life treating me like this. You have forgotten the one thing that makes it all go away: life does not give a f—- about you. Life will never intentionally knock you down life gives you an opportunity. You being knocked down by it has nothing to do with life it has everything to do with you. Getting knocked down is a wake up call “hey something to see over here,”and then you should see the opportunity that has been presented.
Okay life has given you an even bigger blow a death in the family, or death to someone you love. Grieve first. Go through all the stages. Then finally take a look at the death and remember not the losing of life but celebrating the life that was lived. Use the new found feelings the hurt pain and celebration of life to help others or have gone through similar situations to get out of their rut.
That is the true meaning of living. Giving to others what you have learnt showing others that life has more meaning with sharing than just existing to eat sleep and die.
Yes there are times when you need to escape the confines of your reality just to get away from it all. To let go of the burdens of everyday life even for just a moment will increase you awareness of other’s pain and your own and put them into proper perspective and know that it’s just a fleeting moment in the Journey of life. So let’s e the confines of our reality together. Let go of the burdens of everyday life and for this is a Journey Below the Waves.
Have you felt lost or have you lost that sense of wonder in life? Is you life at the moment all serious and there is no fun at work or at home?
What you are experiencing is the loss of your childhood wonderment. The loss of curiosity in everything you see and do. You think all that is around you is mundane and monotonous. What you need to do is to rekindle that childhood wonderment inside of you.
How would you do this? It’s simple look at someone you know really look into their eyes and then when they least expect it make a face at them see what their reaction is. You will find that whatever their reaction is, whether good or bad, your heart will race and feel alive you will find their reactions to you to be curious. Then you will question yourself why did they react the way they did. Then begins the journey of finding out.
As you find out more and more you will notice that you have discovered something new about the person whom you made the face to. And in turn they will have found out something new about you. This in turn will make you more curious about what you don’t know about each other. By conversing with them you will enjoy the rekindled wonderment for life.
When you have stopped learning about yourself you stop living and just exist. But the more you learn about yourself the more you will keep that wonderment alive inside and life will be more exciting to live and to interact with those around you.
So until next time. Stay Safe. Stay Cool. And rekindle that wonderment from your childhood.
Please tell me your reaction to the face below in the comments:
You find yourself in a friendship with someone. You give it your all to make this relationship great. You try and keep the communication going try to be there for them when they need you and then help them out
You find out they are not putting in the effort you are. They do not communicate with you. They just call you when you are needed. That is the only time they communicate with you if at all. You help them out because you are a friend. Once they have been helped and no longer need it, they toss you by the wayside. They ignore you even when they see you. No greetings no nothing. They only talk when they cannot avoid you at all.
This is the type of person you should let go of. But when you let them go and they notice it they try to get back into your good books because they want you to be there at their beck and call. They were never in it for the friendship. They were in it to use you and that is it.
But you do like the person enough to allow them back in because you believe in giving people second chances then once they are back they again become the person they were before you let them go. So you let them go again. And again they try to get back into you good books. Letting them go becomes a chore and it keeps hurting. So once you have let them go do not let them back in. Do not give them another chance for them to use you.
Being used is demeaning for you are never appreciated for what you do. Life is too short for wasting your time with these types. Let them go and be glad to see the back of them. If they try to come back just keep them at a distance.
Until next time Stay Safe. Stay Cool. And let your toxic friends go and never look back at them again.
The friends we make will shape who we become in the future. They are the ones who help us push the limits of who we can become. They are the ones who will make us into superheroes for others, while they are superheroes to us. They never need attention or a reason for being there. They are always just there. So choose the friends that push you to do better not people to tell you what you are doing wrong all the time.
For some years now a friend of mine kept asking me to do things that were impossible for me to do. They would not listen and would not communicate with me properly. It all came to a head last month when we had a huge argument. Finally, they got what I needed and now for the past month, the communication between us has been great. No problems so far. They tell me what they need I give them what think will help out and we hatch out a plan that works well.
It was not that I pushed them to communicate more it was also them pushing me to do better with my communication as well. By pushing each other we are now a better team working together for a common goal.
They are the friends you need. The ones that will push you to the limits and then make Sur you blow past those limits and become a super friend. You must also push them to become more than who they could be. You must be their super friend as well. Or they will abandon you.
So until next time, Stay Safe. Stay cool and be a super friend to find a super friend.
Time heals all wounds. Keep those you love in your memories. Lest we forget. These great sayings all hide one ugly truth. They hide the cruelest things in life.
Time does not heal wounds, people who believe that know nothing of how time is cruel by reminding us here and there of what went down. The only way to heal is to let go. The only way to let go is to let people in to help. Healing emotional wounds takes time and effort. Time only moves forward it does not care who you are what you have been through. It just is.
It took me a long time to find that out. And I found it the hard way. Falling to the bottom of an abyss so dark that even light could never cut through. Is the abyss gone? No it will never go away. It is a constant reminder of where I have been. Yet the darkness has no sway over me anymore. The people around me has seen to that. My friends. My family. They are the ones who helped me. Your friends and family are the ones who will help you. But you have to be the one to find help. You cannot do it on your own. However you alone must seek the help out.
The other cruel thing that those sayings hide are memories. Always keep your loved ones in your hearts. I will never forget. These are things we say to keep us happy before we go to sleep at night. Yet the truth is memories fade over time. Try as hard as you like but you will lose memories over the course of your life time. That is another reason why time does not heal. It is a cruel reminder that all things must pass.
In my darkest moments, I also realised that the memories of those I have lost have degraded. I even sometimes cannot recall their faces. They are lost to the winds of time. All I have left are the emotions that I felt when I was with them. Emotions are the bonds between each other. The only way to make connects with each other is to communicate. Always stay in touch, never let go because in the end all you will have left are those connections. What you did together, what they said to you, what you said to them, all will pass and be forgotten. Yet those emotions that you build between you they will last a life time.
Stay in touch with those whom you love. Do not let time get the better of you. Most of all do not forget to stay connected. Let your emotions be the fibres that connect your souls together.
Until next time, Stay Safe. Stay Cool. And never allow time to pass without connecting with those you love the most.